The humble bikini it can be your summer best friend I promise. No matter what your shape and size there is a two piece out there for you. Let me tell you more….
Of course there are also some wonderful one piece swimming costumes and the choice these days is huge – they certainly don’t have to feel frumpy and matronly. Yet for me the bikini holds some special magic and here’s why:
You don’t get as hot and sweaty as in a one piece
There are so many more styles to choose from
You get to show off more of your wonderful body (and yes all our bodies are wonderful)
You get to feel free
There can be less tan lines
They’re super glamorous and when you get it right, make you feel amazing
So how to get it right? Well firstly let me be quite clear. There are no rules here. This is YOUR choice. Bugger the don’t wear a bikini because I’m this size, had babies, over 30, too fat, too thin malarkey. No. If you want to wear one, wear one. And the one you wear needs to make you feel comfortable and glamorous.
For some of us, this does require a bit of work and adjustment to the mind set. If the bikini fills you with dread here are some steps to take. Try on different styles until you find one that makes you happy. Like I said there are no rules. I’m not going to say if you have massive knockers only go for underwired supportive jobs. Nope. If you want to show of those glorious assets in a triangle top then do it!
Equally if you have small boobs (like me) don’t feel you need to add padding (unless you want to of course) and don’t be scared of more revealing tops. All boobs are beautiful in all their many variations of shapes and sizes 👙😊
Bottom wise, high waisted are super flattering on most figures and have a fun retro feel but can make you quite hot 🥵
However my go to bikini happy place is a triangle string. I find them super comfy and versatile (easy to make strapless if you tie the neck string round the back). New Look always have a great selection at super prices 🙌
Halter necks are also very glam, and bottoms can come at a variety of waist shapes and styles. Don’t think the Brazilian or thong shapes are just for 20 something bums. Nope. They can be for you too. Have a play in the dressing room and see what works for you.
Also think about accessories. They can totally add to your glamorous beach look and give you more confidence. Try a pretty sarong, scarf, or kaftan.
Add a hat, bracelet, earrings, turban or headwrap. Just like for any other outfit you can dress bikinis up or down 🤗
No for the harder bit. The mindset. We have it drummed into us from such a young age that we have to be bikini perfect to wear one. Magazines, tv, insta and models all looking slim, toned and airbrushed to shit. None of this is real. Repeat now – none of this is real!!!!
Bodies cone in all shapes and sizes. And our own bodies change over time. They are meant to. We are not meant to look cryogenically frozen for all eternity. They are meant to move, wobble, dimple and be strong. They also look totally different depending on how we move, stand, and sit. Depending on what we eat, whether we have our period or not and so many other factors. This is normal.
Of course we should look after ourselves ,eat well, exercise and moisturise, but as part of our normal routine. We should not have to change the way we look to put on a bikini.
If you think this, then you need to have a social media cull. You need to have a feed that shows you real women, different shapes and sizes and different ideas. Some great instagram accounts to follow (if you don’t already) and that continue to inspire me with bikini and body love are below:
All these women are bad ass queens who rocked the shit out of there bikinis this summer. Like me they still have body hang ups sometimes. Some of us are further along our self love and body acceptance journey than others. But all of them love their bodies for what they are, and celebrate them for their uniqueness.
So I hope this post inspires you to get that bikini on and make some memories. The kids are not going to see a wobbly belly, they will see their mum having a wonderful time with them on the beach. And your mates, partner and anyone else who sees you will think, wow 😲 look at that babe rocking her own unique summer vibe 😎👙
Most of my bikinis here are ages old so I’ve had a quick scout on two of my favourite high street brands (New Look and ASOS) for some inspo available below. Good luck and remember how beautiful you are 😘👙
Big love Jules xx